A noob's guide to falling in love...

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Let's get back to the topic:

A NOOB'S GUIDE TO FALLING IN LOVE.

Falling in love is by far one of the best things you can feel. There are only a select few things in the world that can be compared with the feeling of falling in love and you know its true.

If you are new to this process, I'd make a guess to say that you've just entered your teenage and that this is probably a result of those bubbling hormones. You will feel all sorts of emotions towards people, maybe even more than required. It's alright. Happens to the best of us. Don't worry, jump straight into it! If you're lucky you'll find the love of your life, if not, it'll be a funny story to tell your kids. Teenage years are pretty immature, so just do what feels right. Irrespective of whether it goes your way or not, you'll have a story to tell.

If you're past the age of let-my-hormones-do-their-thing, and you still haven't fallen in love, it may be because of one of many reasons; you haven't found the right person, you're dead inside or you're just too afraid to try. Lemme tell you this. Finding the right person is indeed a very difficult task. You are yet to meet so many people in your life; one of them could be your match. If you're devoid of emotions, I can't possibly comprehend what you must've gone through to get to that point in your life. My sympathies are with you, my friend and I only hope that someday, you'll be happier. You could be too afraid to try because you're too shy or afraid of what 'might' happen that you won't even bother to entertain the possibility of what 'can' happen. Maybe it was a really bad breakup, maybe your fiancé died, maybe the scars of your past haunt you so bad, that you don't want history to repeat again. Understandable, and here's a rather 'easier-said-than-done' solution. Give yourself a second chance, maybe the third chance. Never fall short of giving yourself chances. You have one life. Just because you failed once or twice or thrice or multiple times, doesn't mean that you give up. Things do get better.

Now if you're a noob like me and you've fallen in love before, you know how serious sh*t gets. I personally am not a casual dating kinda person which means when you see me in a relationship, you know it'll last a long time because I'll do what it takes to make it work. Sounds like you? You've come to the right place. Now that I know, you're the serious kind, the FAQs are mainly:

1. How can I tell if I've fallen in love?

Ans. You feel really really good. Your comfort zone tends to revolve around that person and you WILL tend to be very self conscious when you're around them. As every other cliched romantic movie would describe it, you'll feel butterflies flying around in your stomach.

2. How do I get my crush to like me back?

Ans. This remains a mystery to scientists all across the globe. This question has been passed on from generation to generation and everyone has their version of a solution. Here's mine, you 'can't' get your crush to like you back although you most certainly can try to do so. Start off by trying to find out their likes and dislikes, make a complete profile without trying to be creepy. After you've got that down, just do what would make your crush notice you. After she does notice you, try socialising and after you've really gotten to know each other, try proceeding to the next step.

3. What if my crush doesn't like me back?

Ans. An awful lot of times, your crush may see your gestures to impress them as an attempt to be a good friend. This phenomenon is popularly criticised as 'being friendzoned'. Delving into the depths of this is a tedious process, so I'd recommend that you move on with your life.

4. How do I avoid screwing up things with my crush?

Ans. Don't be a creep. Don't ask them out too early. Screw ups are bound to happen. To err is human. Your ability to handle the situation well is what'll help you in the long run.

5. What if I'm the one being approached?

Ans. You lucky ass m*therf*cker. Don't be a douchebag and just be kind to whosoever is showing you affection. Rejection can also be delivered politely without hurting the other person's feelings unless they're psychotically obsessed with you in which you're one unlucky ass m*therf*cker.

Love is a very strange concept. You could love someone only to find out that they never loved you back. It doesn't mean you're OR the other person is at fault. It just means that it wasn't meant to be and that you're gonna have to decide what you're gonna do with the rest of your life; continue maintaining the same feelings or keep looking for your perfect match.

In this generation of hookups and casual flings, true love and legit relationships have had their reputation tainted. While some prefer life in the fast lane, there are many like me who like to win the race slow and steady. If that makes me ancient and boring, so be it. Why don't you be you and I'll be me?

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