All of us or atleast most of us have had that one friend who meant the world to us and now they're nothing more than an acquaintance. You know it. In my case, I have had many such friends who seasoned me to the extent that I'm immune to the pain of losing friends. However, the people I know now, they're all good people. They bring out the human side of me.
When it comes to friendship, it is a very complex topic to tread upon. You can't exactly classify friendships, but based on the efforts put in by a friend and you, you can tell how good your friendship is.
These are the 7 levels of friendship as perfectly described by canadiandemons on DeviantArt(http://canadiandemons.deviantart.com/):
Level Zero:
We talk now and then and get along but it's all to prevent/break awkward silences.
Physical contact, Facebook, Tumblr, Phone number and backstory locked.
Level One:
We talk often.
Unlocked - high five, fist bump, Facebook.
Level Two:
We talk and greet one another in the hall.
Unlocked - phone number.
Level Three:
We discuss meaningful things, essential questions asked.
Unlocked hugs, tragic backstory, hangout ability.
Level Four:
Unlocked - joke-flirting and/or affectionate nicknames.
Level Five:
Unlocked - tumblr, fanfiction/art, platonic cuddling.
Level Six:
I love you. Let's get a dog or tattoo together. You're family to me.
As you go from levels zero to six you realise that you're far more emotionally attached than you thought you were. Which makes you vulnerable to any sudden change. You are possessive about that person.
After level Six, the relationship may evolve into a romantic one at which point getting back to the friendship is mostly a no-go.
What happens when things change?
You're on top of a tower. Someone blasts the base off. The tower starts to crumble. That's what happens to you. You're left exposed and helpless as you start to think, 'What if all of my life was a lie?' and lots of other thoughts cross your mind each making you feel weaker than the previous one.
If you're one of those people who don't put emotions into the friendship, I don't blame you. You're either playing it safe or you don't care so much. If you're the former type, get out there and make some new friends. You need to move on because time won't wait for you and you'll end up regretting not having any freinds. If you're the latter, piss off mate.
There is a vast percentage of the human population which believes in the true spirit of friendship. So if you have a friend who cares for you and finds you perfect despite your obvious imperfections, treat them with care, they are rare to find. If you ARE one such person, you have my respect and you deserve the best in life.
Cheers to friendship, the best abstract concept that can be weaker than an egg shell or as strong as a diamond.
Thanks for reading!
Stay tuned.
Toodles :)
When it comes to friendship, it is a very complex topic to tread upon. You can't exactly classify friendships, but based on the efforts put in by a friend and you, you can tell how good your friendship is.
These are the 7 levels of friendship as perfectly described by canadiandemons on DeviantArt(http://canadiandemons.deviantart.com/):
Level Zero:
We talk now and then and get along but it's all to prevent/break awkward silences.
Physical contact, Facebook, Tumblr, Phone number and backstory locked.
Level One:
We talk often.
Unlocked - high five, fist bump, Facebook.
Level Two:
We talk and greet one another in the hall.
Unlocked - phone number.
Level Three:
We discuss meaningful things, essential questions asked.
Unlocked hugs, tragic backstory, hangout ability.
Level Four:
Unlocked - joke-flirting and/or affectionate nicknames.
Level Five:
Unlocked - tumblr, fanfiction/art, platonic cuddling.
Level Six:
I love you. Let's get a dog or tattoo together. You're family to me.
As you go from levels zero to six you realise that you're far more emotionally attached than you thought you were. Which makes you vulnerable to any sudden change. You are possessive about that person.
After level Six, the relationship may evolve into a romantic one at which point getting back to the friendship is mostly a no-go.
What happens when things change?
You're on top of a tower. Someone blasts the base off. The tower starts to crumble. That's what happens to you. You're left exposed and helpless as you start to think, 'What if all of my life was a lie?' and lots of other thoughts cross your mind each making you feel weaker than the previous one.
If you're one of those people who don't put emotions into the friendship, I don't blame you. You're either playing it safe or you don't care so much. If you're the former type, get out there and make some new friends. You need to move on because time won't wait for you and you'll end up regretting not having any freinds. If you're the latter, piss off mate.
There is a vast percentage of the human population which believes in the true spirit of friendship. So if you have a friend who cares for you and finds you perfect despite your obvious imperfections, treat them with care, they are rare to find. If you ARE one such person, you have my respect and you deserve the best in life.
Cheers to friendship, the best abstract concept that can be weaker than an egg shell or as strong as a diamond.
Thanks for reading!
Stay tuned.
Toodles :)
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