I would like to narrow down the focus of this post. When I say relationships, I am referring to teen relationships and not professional relationships, leading to marriage and family and death.
So, my entire post will be pertaining to only teen relationships. Let's not be d*cks about it.
Now, what is a relationship?
I would say anything that involves contact (of any sort) is a relationship. It need not be physical, or emotional, all that matters is a contact. Every friendship is a relationship. If you add romance to it, it'll become a full fledged relationship.
Everyone loves everyone as long as they don't hate them.
So technically everyone is in a relationship.
So why are teen relationships any different?
Of course they are. Teen relationships are probably one of the most hyped and taboo topics in my country. Teenagers in relationships are looked down upon by the society and that isn't good.
What is wrong with having feelings for someone?
Why do we have to wait until marriage to express your feelings for the someone?
Why can't most people love by choice?
Why is love seen and equated to wealth and how educationally qualified a person is?
As much as I'd like to answer these questions, I have a few things to say that might resolve these questions.
Teenage is a time where hormones f*ck you up. It is pretty natural for most boys and girls to develop feelings for each other during this time and this is science. A relationship is just a successful establishment that both the members in it have feelings for each other. These feelings might be temporary, permanent, utility based, convenient, etc.
As far as what I've experienced and observed, majority of the boys between the age of say 14-20?, yeah tend to develop feelings for girl(s). Most of them turn out to be infatuations and hence, never a successful relationship.
In case of the girl, I HAVE NO FRIGGIN CLUE WHAT GOES ON IN THEIR MINDS. FOR CHRIST'S SAKE TRY TO BE A LITTLE MORE OBVIOUS LIKE THE GUYS.
Another major problem in my country is the involvement of parents. Some parents are really chill about all this. I respect all of those parents and give them a 10/10 for appropriate parenting. But there are some parents who think that even talking with your girlfriend is gonna impregnate her. They end up taking worst case measures in order to break up their child's relationship and that sucks. You can't obviously terminate a relationship so instantly unless it was an easily breakable one. I don't say that those parents are wrong, they obviously care for their child but there are many better ways to deal with your child's love life.
Teen relationships aren't often permanent and those that are, are really amazing. One of the reasons why teen relationships don't last so long are because of their cause. Hormones. The same brain that causes you develop feelings also may end up losing feelings all together. Teen relationships aren't often thoroughly thought through and hence end up breaking down due to trivial fights and/or trust issues and/or development of other love interests and a bunch of other reasons.
As always, there are exceptions to everything that is stated and there are exceptions to every aspect of this topic as well. I shall not go so deep into this topic. I'll leave the rest of it to you guys.
As always, there are exceptions to everything that is stated and there are exceptions to every aspect of this topic as well. I shall not go so deep into this topic. I'll leave the rest of it to you guys.
To all you teen lovers out there, I'd like to say something.
It's okay to fall in love,
It's okay to be rejected,
It's okay to change who you love,
And not feel damned.
It's okay to break up,
And move on in life,
Don't put a full stop,
After a petty strife.
As long as your love,
Is as true as it can be,
Love till you can,
The rest will for itself see.
I CANNOT POETRY. I SORRY.
I thank you.
Stay tuned.
Peace.
Toodles :)
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